cause et effet

What will future be like? No one knows the answer. All we know is the effects that will appear in the future are all contained in the causes that are made in the present.

What's life?

So now who understands me most? Not even myself I think. Anyone wanna volunteer to console me? Never mind, it's useless. It won't help anyway. What a year. Did I mess things up? Why are all the problems coming all at the same time? Family, friends, partner, job... What else more to come? Please, I've a weak heart, I can't take too many bad news at one goal. It's good to have challenges in life, but why can't it be spread over a period of time and not all at the same time? It would then turn into a big big problem with specific ones at different areas of your life and it's so so hard to tackle all with you and only yourself to handle all these. Yes, they might not be those big problems to some out there. But to me, it is. And I've to think of so many solutions to solve my problems. All at the same time! Please, Fate, can you give me some chance? I beg you!

许振荣 Dasmond Koh

His birthday 22/02.

He used to have a dog and its name is 22 (tutu).

Go online also must be at 00:22am.

I guess he really like number 22 a lot as that's his lucky number.

As he wishes...

If possible, I want Campus SuperStar Final's tickets! Hee...

Encouragements

Buddhism is the wellspring of courage. When we possess courage, we can transform any misfortune or suffering into sustenance for our own development and the strength for achieving our mission.

You can forge the path to a fulfilling and enjoyable life if you have the depth of faith to regard everything as a source for creating happiness and value. Conversely, if you see everything only in a negative or pessimistic light, your life will gradually but inevitably be plunged into darkness. Buddhism teaches the subtle principle of ichinen, and moreover, the power of faith.

Aquarius (Jan 21 - Feb 21)

Do's

Aquarius are friendly and fascinating people. They have in-depth knowledge about various subjects and you can converse with them for hours without getting bored. They are capable of giving a lot of love that can be amazing. They have a very broad outlook of life and you can relax in their presence. They will always welcome your ideas and actions about humanitarian causes. To keep an Aquarius lover interested you must possess that mysterious and intriguing quality. Once hooked they will always be very faithful to you.

Don'ts

Do not expect or plan a normal, simple and predictable life with an Aquarius partner. Aquarians are totally unpredictable. They can go to any direction without giving any advance notice. They are basically very restless and get bored easily. Though they are very friendly, do not expect them to reveal their inner most feelings to you (they never will). They can be detached and impersonal, which may seem strange to others.

What Planet Are You From?

You Are From Neptune

You are dreamy and mystical, with a natural psychic ability. You love music, poetry, dance, and (most of all) the open sea. Your soul is filled with possibilities, and your heart overflows with compassion. You can be in a room full of friendly people and feel all alone. If you don't get carried away with one idea, your spiritual nature will see you through anything.

What Planet Are You From?

Think out of the box

You are driving along in your car on a wild, stormy night. You pass by a bus stop, and you see three person waiting for the bus:

1. An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.

2. An old friend who once saved your life.

3. The perfect man (or) woman you have been dreaming about.

Which one would you choose to offer a ride, knowing that there could only be one passenger in your car.

Think before you continue reading. This is a moral/ethical dilemma that was once actually used as part of a job application.

The candidate who was hired (out of 200 applicants) had no trouble coming up with his answer. Guess what was his answer?

He simply answered: "I would give the car keys to my old friend, and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the woman of my dreams."

Mei Qi follow-up

Just received a call at 14:38 from Australia. Guess who is it? It's Mei Qi! She's in Melbourne now! She's there for almost 2 weeks and is okay with the accomodation, food, orientation etc. I'm very glad to hear that she has settled down and starting school tomorrow. A brand new campus life for her! Jia You Mei Qi!

My Campus SuperStar

Name: Teresa Tseng 曾咏霖
Date of Birth：19/10/1990
Age：15
Horoscope：Libra
Blood Type：B
Height：160 cm
Weight：45 kg
School：CHIJ Katong Convent
Level：Secondary 2
Favourite Singer：A-Mei 张惠妹
Hobbies：Singing, drawing
Co-curricular activities：Choir


Quarter-final 1B (Monday January 9, 2006) Performing 灰姑娘


Quarter-Finals 2B (Monday January 23, 2006) Performing 路


Quarter-Finals 3A (Monday February 6, 2006) Performing 暧昧

The 90/10 Principle

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How?

By your reaction

You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what had just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is “D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

What could have and should have happened

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Some ways to apply the 90/10 principle

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?

Do you lose your temper?

Pound on the steering wheel?

Do you curse?

Does your blood pressure skyrocket?

Do you try and bump them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.

Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartaches. There never seem to be a success in life.

Bad days follow bad days

Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged.

You can be different!

Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!

Author: Stephen Covey

Life is full of surprises.
There are many things that you don’t know when they will happen.
These things can completely change your life.

Daily Encouragement

This lifetime will never come again; it is precious and irreplaceable. To live without regret, it is crucial for us to have a concrete purpose and continually set goals and challenges for ourselves. It is equally important that we keep moving toward specific targets steadily and tenaciously, one step at a time.

Perhaps Love

Everyone wants to find out
Who's the one love of their lives?
More so melancholy especially around midnight
Eyes closed with heart unsettled
Because deep inside, you know that was love

Perhaps such was love
I'd bravely stay on, given another chance
Even with pain, even with tears...
Even with countless lonely nights
Love... why is it always clearer looking back?
Even with pain, even with tears...
The feeling remained after love was long gone
Perhaps such was love

If you understand then
Life later on was joyful or sorrowful?
Especially in the midnight, thinking of the future
Can I lead the present tranquilly?
When I ask myself what is love

Perhaps such was love
I'd stay if given another chance
Even with pain, even with tears...
Even with countless lonely nights
Love... why is it always clearer looking back?
Even with pain, even with tears...
The feeling remained after love was long gone
Perhaps such was love
Because such is love

很想你

I can't forget the feeling that I had a month ago...

And it's coming back...

I just can't let go...

I don't wish to accept the fact and I simply can't...

WHY?!

I can lose someone I like but don't like me,

I can lose a friend who doesn't care about me,

I can lose almost everything but not her!

Why her?

WHY?!

我很想你 你知道吗

如果可以 就让我再见你

我很想你 听见了吗

这是唯一 我无解的困境

那些过去 不肯过去...

Spend time with loved ones

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door.

Son: "Daddy, may I ask you a question?"

Dad: "Yeah sure, what is it?" replied the man.

Son: "Daddy, how much do you make an hour?"

Dad: "That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?" the man said angrily.

Son: "I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?"

Dad: "If you must know, I make $100 an hour."

"Oh," the little boy replied, with his head down. Looking up, he said,"Daddy, may I please borrow $50?"

The father was furious, "If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior."

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions.

How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $50 and he really didn't ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.

"Are you asleep, son?" He asked.

"No daddy, I'm awake," replied the boy.

"I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier," said the man. "It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $50 you asked for."

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. "Oh, thank you daddy!" He yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.

The man, seeing that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.

The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

"Why do you want more money if you already have some?" the father grumbled.

"Because I didn't have enough, but now I do," the little boy replied.

"Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you."

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Share $100 worth of time with someone you love. It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts.

If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family.

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Life contains the capacity, like flames that reach toward heaven, to transform suffering and pain into the energy needed for value-creation, into light that illuminates darkness. Like the wind traversing vast spaces unhindered, life has the power to uproot and overturn all obstacles and difficulties. Like clear flowing water, it can wash away all stains and impurities. And finally life, like the great earth that sustains plants and vegetation, impartially protects all people with its compassionate, nurturing force.

Instructions for life

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

3. Follow the three R’s: Respect for self, Respect for other’s and Responsibility for all your actions.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great relationship.

7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8. Spend some time alone every day.

9. Open arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.

15. Be gentle with the earth.

16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

17. Remember that the best relationship is the one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

20. Live life to the fullest each and every day.

Unknown feelings...

I look forward, look backward and look into the mirror

To the future, the past and the present

Whoever I'm meeting, or you and myself

It's perhaps no longer the same as what used to be

If I know that movie night was the last day we'd meet

I'd rather we don't meet

Not in the future, when we met or even now

It's better to be strangers, without knowing each other

A perfectionist doesn't allow imperfection.

However, does imperfection create perfection?

Unexpected suffering

Don't know why... I've been sleeping early lately, but in the day I'll still feel sleepy if not with tired eyes. And my leg problem is getting a bit serious. Pain and ache every now and then! Nevermind, getting use to it.

Tired, tired, tired... Troubled, troubled, troubled... What a year this year... There's still a long way to go before it ends... Hmm...

Life is full of unexpected suffering. Even so, as Eleanor Roosevelt says: "If you can live through that [a difficult situation] you can live through anything. You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' That's exactly right. Struggling against great difficulty enables us to develop ourselves tremendously. We can call forth and manifest those abilities lying dormant within us. Difficulty can be a source of dynamic new growth and positive progress. (October 6, 1995).

JM Lalala 1

You're stalking me, ya?

Why me?

There are others out there,

waiting for you.

You're looking at me, ya?

You make it not obvious to others,

but I'm not stupid.

You're trying to be friend with me, ya?

You might be trying,

but I ain't responding.

Day-dreaming? Gossiping? Nonsense? Whatsoever...

It is not our environment or circumstances but our inner resolve that is important. Do not allow yourself to be preoccupied or held back by considerations of educational background, wealth, fame or social position. Always advance in life based on faith, no matter what happens. That is the spirit of a Buddhist.

Remembering things about a person is an expression of compassion and concern. Forgetfulness shows a lack of compassion, a lack of responsibility.

Fatigué

Tired...

The important thing is to hold firm to your beliefs without being influenced or swayed by what others do or say. Those who live this way are strong and free of regret. What matters most is how you lead your life-not what those around you are doing.

Bon voyage Mei Qi

Went to Marché just now to have a farewell dinner with Mei Qi. She's going to Australia, Melbourne, for further studies on the coming Wednesday. She'd be there for a year and would be doing 2 majors. That sounds very good and promising for her future upon graduate! It'd be better if she could stay there for another year to do a honours if her results are excellent.

I hope that everything would be fine for her there and that she study hard enough.

Jia You Mei Qi! Jia You! Jia You! Jia You! =)

Bon voyage!

We are who we are. Our life is our own. It is important that we discard a cowardly animalistic way of life— where we are always worried about what others say or do or about how we might appear to others— and instead live with confidence and conviction.

情绪加油站

• 保持笑容：笑能增强人体的免疫系统，每笑一次，脑部会放松一下。多看轻松的节目，让自己 开心一些。
• 写日记：这是舒缓情绪的好方法，不想写，可用录音方式。
• 多说好话：脑袋需要正面的能量，应多说正面的话。
• 按己需要：想想自己在什么时候最快乐，这是来自内心最真实的感受。
• 定时打扮：尽可能突出自己最美最好的一面。这不是故意扮靓，而是珍惜自己的表现。懂得爱惜自己的人，人生观通常较为积极。
• 奖励自己：在适当的时候，买一份礼物给自己，让心情轻松愉快。
• 视觉训练：学习绘画等，能增加视觉的立体感和色彩感；多欣赏美丽的艺术品，刺激视觉观感。

Tips on healty ageing

• Go on an anti-inflammatory diet.
• Use dietary supplements wisely to support the body's defences and natural healing power.
• Use preventive medicine intelligently: Know your risk of age-related disease, get appropriate diagnostic and screening tests and immunisations, and treat problems (like elevated blood pressure and cholesterol) in their early stages.
• Get regular physical activity throughout life.
• Get adequate rest and sleep.
• Learn and practise methods of stress protection.
• Exercise your mind as well as your body.
• Maintain social and intellectual connections as you go through life.
• Be flexible in mind and body: Learn to adapt to losses and let go behaviour no longer appropriate for your age.
• Think about and try to discover for yourself the benefits of ageing.
• Do not deny the reality of ageing or put energy into trying to stop it. Use the experience of ageing as a stimulus for spiritual awakening and growth.
• Keep an ongoing record of the lessons you learn, the wisdom you gain and the values you hold. At critical points in your life, read this over, add to it, revise it, and share it with people you care about.

$10 million

If I'm not wrong, tomorrow will be the draw for the $10 million Toto. Wow! That's a very huge sum of money! I doubt I can earn so much this lifetime. Anyway, let me dream of how I'm gonna spend this sum of money if I have it...

1) Save it.

2) Donate to charity.

3) Buy a house.

4) Treat my friends.

Simple wishes right? Yeah, I'm simple-minded. Haha! Opps! Still got somemore!

5) Buy a digital camcorder.

6) Buy a PSP.

7) Buy another laptop.

8) Buy another MP3 player.

That's all! It's a bit greedy I think... Anyway, it's just but a dream. We can always dream and work towards our dream! I'll work towards and save for my dream. =)

Your environment does not matter. Everything starts with you. You must forge yourself through your own efforts. I urge each of you to create something, start something and make a success of something. That is the essence of human existence, the challenge of youth. Herein lies a wonderful way of life always aiming for the future.

Je suis Bungo Danderfluff

My japanese name is 小島 Kojima (small island) 雄大 Masahiro (big hero).
Take your real japanese name generator! today!

Meaning I'm the big hero on the small island? Haha! =P

My Hobbit name is Bungo Danderfluff.

Link: http://www.chriswetherell.com/hobbit/

And my Elvish name is Galdor Tulcakelumë

Link: http://www.chriswetherell.com/elf/

Have fun with them! =D

avant et après

Before

After

Before & After

Long hair vs Short hair
Cool face vs Smiling face
Studying vs Working
Night owl vs Morning glory

2005 vs 2006

These are some of the changes in me between beginning of last year and this year. Events that happened in my life will be kept as memories forever, be it happy, sad, sweet, heart-breaking ones... Life goes on...

Unless we live fully right now, not sometime in the future, true fulfilment in life will forever elude us. Rather than putting things off till the future, we should find meaning in life, thinking and doing what is most important right now, right where we are-setting our hearts aflame and igniting our lives. Otherwise, we cannot lead an inspired existence.

Chingay

Went to had dinner and shopping with Fanny at Orchard Road. And it was very crowded because of Chingay! I felt as though I was counting down to the new year! Haha!

We shared our views on relationships. Not merely boy-girl relationship but also other kinds of relationships, and we share the same view. Our thinking are quite alike actually.

We went to Heeren's HMV 'cos she wanted to buy a new released album and had our dinner at Sushi Tei. Our attempts failed! She didn't get her CD as it is not available yet and my first dinning in at Sushi Tei didn't leave me a good impression on its food provided. I ordered a katsu curry rice that's absolutely not nice! However, I managed to finish it 'cos I was hungry! Though the rice I ordered didn't taste good but I think they serve nice sushi and provide good service. Every now and then they would refill our cups with green tea.

After that we walked to Paragon, passing by the road and caught some glimps of the Chingay. I wanna watch the Chingay! It seemed so nice and fun! The atmosphere at Orchard Road just now was excellent!

A short update today...

I'm happy

Don't know why, I've been quite happy these few days. Natural joy in me. Perhaps my course mates are far too funny! I find almost all of them like professional jokers and full-time chatters. They are always, continuously chatting from morning till night! My friend and I are always wondering why they have so so so much things to talk about. Other than chatting and joking around, gaming is next. Many bring N-gage handphones to play, and worse still watch things which are not supposed to be watched inside. I guess you guys have something in mind already. I shan't explain much.

Some of my course mates also started to talk to me, even though I appear to be cold and quiet at all times. Haha! Don't know why. Maybe they are just too bored talking to the same old people everyday, so they find new people to chat with.

Argh! Lazy to write much, wanna go to sleep! =)

The world at peace and all humanity living together in harmony is the dream and hope of the 21st century. The surest first step towards realizing that goal is human beings reaching out and engaging in dialogue that transcends all differences.

Organique

Surprise! I'm at home blogging! However, later still gotta go back...

Read Mind Your Body from today's The Straits Times. It features a lot of information on organic food. Including listing of organic produce & foodstuff available in Singapore. Some of you (my future-to-be business partners) might know that I'm interested in organic food because of my Final Year Project of Enterprise Creation & Development module. Since then, I'm attracted to organic foodstuff.

However, they are still quite expensive in Singapore compared to normal food and in other countries.

Anyway, check it out! =)

The following sounds nice...

Please always advance in harmony and friendship with each other. Harmonious development is the starting point for happiness, construction and value creation. As we each strive to grow further with every passing year, let us accumulate good fortune and together achieve happy, healthy and truly wonderful lives.